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spend a penny

April 13, 2020

My fascination with loos began in early childhood, when a trip to the powder room felt like a flirtation with independence. I’d skip through the restaurant to the sound of clinking glasses, music and chatter. Once in the loo, (I rarely needed to pee) I’d watch women with pouffy hair-dos adjusting their tortoise-shell combs, applying a scarlet lipstick or spritzing their wrists in some decadent scent. And I’d listen to their conversations with a hawk’s ear. Sometimes, they’d engage with me, ask me what I liked to do at school or compliment my dress, and that was a thrill. The really fancy loos had a bathroom attendant who’d give me a plaster or a packet of cotton buds to take away with me. That was a thrill, too. In those days, you could smoke everywhere, even in the ladies’ room. Silver ashtrays sat on every vanity. I found that so chic. Very often, I’d stay so long that all the ice would have melted into my Shirley Temple when I’d return to the table. But I didn’t care. My trips to the loo were an adventure. An experience. An education. I’m still kind of potty about loos. And I never miss an opportunity to check out a really lovely one. It’s the one room we get to explore alone, take in the details –– a wallpaper, a vintage toilet paper holder, the lights, linens, soap –– with no interruptions. Guest loos are so private, and yet so public. It’s one of the reasons why I find them so intriguing.

marmalade

March 10, 2020

When I was a little girl, there was a travelling fair that would come to Staines, complete with all the rides, tombolas and candied apples that a child could imagine. I remember my family going on a rickety ride, and all of us being so scared, that my Dad started screaming expletives at the person operating the swing. “Stop the fucking machine,” he bellowed from above! The best thing about those fairs was winning a goldfish. Sometimes, we’d come home with five or six of them. Fish are the perfect first pet. Caring for fish gives children a manageable amount of responsibility. I fed our fish, talked to it, and cleaned its bowl with a toothbrush. Maybe even my own toothbrush. I’m pretty sure all my goldfish were called Marmalade.

Big, little moments

February 28, 2020

There are well over 150,000 words in the English dictionary. But sometimes, words won’t do. Some moments call for flowers, or a lasagna. Some moments call for a long silence. It’s not enough to assume that the other person knows that you are thinking about them. We have to act on those thoughts. And very often, it’s the tiniest of gestures that hold the greatest love. Jason remembering to buy the bread I like, is another way of saying, “I love you. I am paying attention.” It’s in the details. Let me do your laundry. Let me pick up your kids from school. Here, I saw these socks and I thought of you. When I miss my Mum, or I think she may be missing me, I send her flowers. I like to think of myself as a burst of colour on John’s old desk. Once in a while, my brother will text me the name of the song he’s listening to, usually a romantic power ballad. I do the same back. It’s a Beautiful Life, Billy Raffoul. It really is a beautiful life, so much of it, too beautiful for words.

roll on

February 21, 2020

Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d use a rolling pin as often as I do. As much I love to eat pie, I have little interest in making one. I have a favourite rolling pin at the clay studio, but I do rather like the idea of investing in an embossed one. Just imagine all the lovely pie plates I could make.

to build a home

February 20, 2020

I like walking into a space, where I can’t see everything there is to see. I like surprises. When a space is blown wide open, like so many modern spaces are, there’s no room for curiosity or intrigue. What I love about the way our home has been re-imagined, is that the feeling of curiosity –– so intrinsic to Victorian homes –– is alive and well in its modern incarnation. The house still feels like our home. With a lot more possibility. Huge windows. And a third floor so high up, that we’ll be nesting with the birds. It’s an adventure. All of it. To love a home. To demolish a home. To build another in its place.

Dune

February 18, 2020

I love walking a beach in the dead of winter, when the water is frozen over and the sand is covered in snow. It’s such a surreal experience to feel your heavy winter boots sinking into sand. This weekend we climbed the dunes in Prince Edward County, and watched children skate across the lake in their shoes, and folks ice fish from their cherry red tents. It’s a lovely way to spend a day. Thrill-seekers may want to bring a sled.

On the line

February 17, 2020

Sheets drying on a washing line is such a romantic, nostalgic image. A Cycladic breeze helps. So does a Tuscan one. But even the sight of my neighbour’s sheets, socks and undies bellowing in a Toronto breeze warms my heart. He’s one of very few people I know with a washing line in the garden. A rarity, especially in the city. And thus all the lovelier.

one of a kind

December 9, 2019

If colourful, madcap adornment is your thing, I suggest a scroll through the whimsical world of ceramic artist, Amy Rogers. Her ceramic beads, some intricately glazed, others bold and simple, remind me of the ethnic ones I beaded with as a kid. Except her designs are modern and fresh. Think bold evil eyes –– more surreal than spiritual –– and graphic chandelier earrings. Rogers is having a show at her studio this weekend, the info is on her website.

home sick

December 7, 2019

I’ve not felt well this week, so I’ve not swum, or gone to the studio, or bought fresh flowers, or walked into the woods, or sung a song, or talked with strangers. I haven’t done much at all, actually, outside of writing and watching television and drinking ginger tea. I really do believe that sickness is the body (and mind’s) way of forcing us to slow down and take stock. It started last Thursday with a horrible neck pain that by morning had travelled into my back. “I had to make you uncomfortable otherwise you never would’ve moved.” Forced to break with our routines, shift gears, we are left to examine the reasons we got ill in the first place. So yes, while sickness demands a physical reprieve, it does ask something of the psyche. Which is the whole point. Address the list from the comfort of your sofa. By Monday afternoon, a chest infection had come on that stayed with me all week. Five days horizontal. Anyone who knows me knows that doing nothing is not my forte. “If you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds’ worth of distance run.” So, I wrote two-dozen Christmas cards and watched the Joan Didion documentary. Next week, I’ll be back to health, and swimming laps and making bowls and racing from one end of the city to the other with three kids and an armful of teacher’s gifts in tow. And what will I have gained from this break in regular programming? How will I have been moved? Sideways? Forward?

handmade

December 2, 2019

It’s an important step for an artist to show her work. There’s a legitimacy and validation in seeing her paintings, pots or textiles in a public forum, in receiving feedback from strangers, and in their being an exchange of money. It takes courage to put your work out into the world. For years, I wrote features for magazines and newspapers, but the writing was never meaty or personal enough for me to feel that putting a byline on it was an act of courage. It was always exciting to see my name in print, it still is, but never as thrilling as seeing someone walk away with one of my ceramics. Potters work hard. It’s tough on the body, there are so many steps involved, and we’re always at the mercy of the kiln. Most significantly, anything we make, is a small manifestation of our inner most selves. “I don’t care how heavy it is, I am taking it back to Australia,” said one lovely customer of a massive Mati piece she snapped up at our holiday sale this weekend. For every enthusiastic visitor like Christiann, there were at least half a dozen people that barely gave my table a sideways glance. That’s how it goes. “I don’t think my work is for everyone, but those who like it, seem to really like it,” I told my Mum after the sale. “There’s nothing wrong with having a general appeal, but more interesting to be unique.” Mums always say the best things.

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